Darling has been legally married once, to his current wife. This is the first time he has told his extended family about any relationship besides his legal marriage. This is the first time he has ever brought anyone to meet his extended family as a partner. He has not told them about Chatty and based upon their reaction has decided that will not happen for quite awhile.
I am not a stranger to his family. They have known me since I was a teen. I suppose Darling expected that they would be more accepting than they are. He is understanding now that he rushed it and should have begun talking to them earlier.
I don't think it is realistic to believe that they will embrace me or my children as part of the family yet. They need more time to absorb everything. I certainly don't expect them to shower my kids with gifts. We were just hoping that my kids and I could be included in their celebration.