RaleighGuy, I say so long as you're comfortable with how things are going, then why bother with labels. Not that there's anything wrong with labels, and as far as they go, then I would agree with Mono as far as your status.
I think it's great that you were able to work through your concerns because you wanted to support your wife in her decision. I think that's so awesome, and so rare for men to do on their own. Kudos to you.
Live life to the fullest 'cause you never know if you're gonna wake up tomorrow!