"Our deepest, most committed and responsible love-the love we experience for life, for others, for ourselve: the love that stirs us to find meaning in humble things-flows from our FULLY DEVELOPED, AUTONOMOUS SELF."
I think this is part of why I find myself saying to some people, "no you don't love me"....
I SENSE that they are not "whole" and in that I sense that they are unable to truly love me as I understand love... They can't give their deepest, most committed and responsible love. THey can't find meaning in the humble joy of loving without fearing a lack of "return"...
"Love As Thou Wilt"