Anne makes a good point. If it's not an immediate concern, just something you're idly pondering, then I would bring it up as rhetorical/hypothetical. Let him know right off that there's no pressure to agree or feel a certain way about it, you're just exploring concepts.
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).
The most dangerous phrase in the English language is "we've always done it this way."