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Old 11-30-2012, 05:25 AM
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Emm Emm is offline
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Welcome to the board.

You know how unattractive it is for a single person to go single-mindedly seeking another single person for the single purpose of marriage? Think of someone who won't get to know anyone who doesn't exactly match their checklist of desirable traits and then complains that there are no decent (unmarried opposite gender people) left in the world. Don't do the couple version of that. Meet people, date them, see where it goes. If you try to force a relationship into a shape it isn't naturally going to fit then it'll all end in tears.

As I've posted elsewhere, in order to differentiate yourselves from the million and one other couples looking for the exact same thing, perhaps you could expand a little on the specifics of your situation.

Do you have an age range in mind? Do you have children? Would it be ok if she has children? Would it be ok if she's married or in another relationship? Do you like going out to clubs or do you prefer dinner and a movie? Are you looking for someone for you, someone for your husband, or someone to "share"? If the latter, what happens if one of you falls for her and the other doesn't? What happens if she falls for one of you but not the other? Will she be treated as an equal in the relationship or will she be expected to defer to the Primary Couple™ in all things?
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