Welcome to our forum.
I find that it does make a difference what area you live in. Austin, Seattle, and Boston have always struck me as "very active poly cities," with many poly groups and many poly people living there. We do have a poly group here in Albuquerque, but it wasn't there six years ago. Santa Fe has had an active poly group for quite a long time.
I relate with you about needing an emotional connection. Sex is a very emotional experience for me. Anyway, I hope you enjoy our time on our site, and I encourage you to post any questions or what have you.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"