My first thought would be: As a lesbian dating a man, an asexual man at that, do you plan to go the duration of your relationship without any sexual contact. Does he expect you to live that was as well? It seems that, for at least one of you, that may be a very limiting expectation. Have the two of you ever talked about eachother's long-term needs and expectations?
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VioletLight, 40, Bi Fem. Hinge.
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