Thank you for that perspective. Absolutely! And of course I agree with you. The "choice" in this matter would never be made individually. Because we are now very publicly "linked" as best friends, one of us being "out" would by association out the rest. If any of us were to do that it would require all four of us to mutually agree.
And the truth is I made my choice when I chose to enter this relationship with him. I knew who he was and what he did for work then, and knew that being out would never be an option. Now I am growing and evolving from the challenges involved in honoring that choice. But I will always honor it.
Thanks again. That was an important point that needed to be made.