If confused reading is definitely a good place to start (threads on here, Opening Up, etc.).
Also even though you don't have direct questions about specific things if there's parts that you feel you need more clarification on even asking those to try and work through some of your confusion can help.
Woodsmith: My husband
Merry: Tig's wife/slave
N8: Merry's boyfriend/owner
Elle: N8 girlfriend
Ruby: Part of the Leather Family
Logan: Leather Sir in the Family
Arc: Logan's boy
Holly: Leather family
K: Holly's sub