um, I get what you are saying in terms of BDSM, Mono is NOT interested in details around what me and my tersiary do.
I find it hard to bite my tongue sometimes in situations as I know people are talking out of their ass about stuff they have never experienced and I have... I have to try hard to let them talk it out and not roll my eyes at their preconceived ideas about stuff... I am getting better about that as I think it's important to allow people to be where they are at and meet them there instead of bowling them over with information that makes me look like I am showing off. That is not to say I won't give information, just at a time that is appropriate when they have talked through as much as they know.
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