We are 3 women, 2 of which were in a long term relationship with each other for over 15 years which was failing, one is a newbie, in the midst of a divorce, to the lesbian world. What started out as an affair with newbie and M1 quickly turned to a deep love. Due to other things newbie left her husband and moved onto the couch of the the couple. All 3 of us have caretaker personalities. Newbie and M1 discussed bringing M2, the other half of the long term relationship, in on sexual situtions. Surprisingly M2 was thrilled. This is a closed relationship. We have no want or need to go out of this relationship. It has not been going on for very long and while the road is very enjoyable, it is bumpy. We are learning to trust and let the little things go. Everyday we are more in love. But feeling do get hurt if our hearts are too sensitive. The 3 side are not equal at least at this point. M1 and newbie are more in love and m2 isn't home as much. We have rules and boundries. M2 is finding herself in love with newbie now, and we are hoping to make the long haul. More later.