This particular subject has, for us at least, changed as we have grown in our poly relationship. In the begining, John wanted to know everything about everyone, so I told him. As my relationships got more serious and longer, he asked for less and I gave less.
Now, we check in before having sex with someone new, but execpt in rare cases, we have been dating them and we already know after the first date if its a possibility.
We dont kiss and tell now, but we do warn before it happens. I think that eventually we will get to just "this is a posibility sometime in the future"
Maybe your relationship is maturing to the next level, where you dont want or need to know any more. I would let her know that you dont want to know or dont need to know this time, but you may next time and leave it at that for now
- For the pursuit of happiness, not the sit around and wait for happiness -
Jen - bi female
John (Juntas)- husband
M - John's girlfriend