I have ADD and Depression also. It's not uncommon for me to have similar behavior issues ESPECIALLY during high stress times (finals week, before my period, holidays) and winter (darkness exacerbates it all).
However-there is a responsibility factor that comes into play. I make it a point of sticking to the scheduled dates during those rough times and lavish the attention outside of it.
Additionally-both of my partners AND all of our children are also ADD and we ALL take responsibility for making a point during our good moments to pick up the slack for each other and be sure everyone is connecting daily...
And as sparklepop said-for someone I love-I will move mountains regardless of my depression or ADD...
So-I agree with Annabelle-walk away.
"Love As Thou Wilt"