Thank you both for your replies. I was just being naive of course when I thought that only women would need confirmation. And a little bit sexist too I guess. A little ashamed of that, but at least I'm figuring things out. Learning about myself is a big part of this experience.
I respect the potential BF tremendously for wanting to make sure everything is above-board--I'm just trying to wade through these new waters.
I will ask BF what he needs to feel comfortable with this. That's kind of what I was thinking. Thank you for sharing your advice and experience. I really appreciate it!