I have learned that it is almost never about me, so I have changed my language (because I still think that first) to: 'Whatcha thinkin' 'bout, darling?' Which is more likely to get me more information.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)