Crisare, my inspiration to drop the DADT policy was you.
And yet you call it a Don't-ask-don't-tell and I feel that my wife and I have rescinded that. So... A lot of the dynamics are the same in each of our relationships, but we seem to feel we're on the opposite sides of this issue. :P
Heheh. Go figure, huh?
I think it all depends on your level of comfort in what you call it as well. I think we probably have very similar setups, just different terminology