Originally Posted by availablecouple
Like I had mentioned, I had cheated before and my husband wants to be with me and someone else, just like I want to be with him and another woman. I dont know, It just feels right.
What you are seeking is rare. I believe SchrodingersCat is suggesting the restrictions you are placing on potential partners will severely limit your available dating pool; this is further complicated by the fact that most new couples to poly are seeking the exact same unicorn situation.
All relationships develop at different speeds. If you and a woman were to hit it off immediately and want to be involved, would you turn her away because she did not gel with your husband? What if the potential exists for your husband and not you? Just some things to think about.