Actually the first person I had a crush on other than my husband was already in a relationship too...thankfully with someone who was polyamorous, and she was the one who told me about the lifestyle and encouraged me to read more about it. Once I started educating myself about it, I realized I really identified with it, and that is when my husband and I talked about opening up our relationship.
It's been a bumpy ride, but I'm glad I finally figured it out. I feel a lot more comfortable being polyamorous than I ever did when I was monogamous.
"When we are first born, all we know is how to want, we want food, we want attention. Natural instinct, I guess. But kindness is something that we all have to learn as we go. It's something that grows and develops slowly over time. True kindness isn't something we are born with, it's something we have to work at, we have to mold it and shape it within ourselves. Not everyone has it, but I think everyone has the potential." - Honda Tohru