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Old 11-23-2012, 12:54 AM
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Many poly parents wait a good long time before introducing a lover into family situations. He has only known her for three months - that is nothing, really. In a month when Christmas rolls around, their relationship will still be fairly new. They are still just getting to know each other. If I were you I would tell him that you need to have more knowledge of who she is, over more time, before asking her to family dinners and events, and to be around your kids. I would never expect to be invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas if I were dating someone for only three or four months. That's ridiculous. Even if she doesn't have family nearby, it isn't your responsibility to host her at your place. Your husband needs to wake up a little about that.
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