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Old 11-22-2012, 04:58 PM
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Jeez, I didn't label anybody anything. I wasn't saying you are a swinger, but offered only that what you're looking for might be better found at swing clubs and swinger-focused sites, rather than poly-focused sites, because your post expressed wanting a threesome just for fun. In no way was I putting down swinging or labeling you. Shit, I don't even know you - AND I already apologized for misunderstanding you, which you never acknowledged.

If you're going to quote me, why not include the helpful advice I gave you:

Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
Basically, it sounds like you both really only want to focus on recreational sex rather than relationships, and since polyamory is not about sex, you would probably get better results in the swinging community.

There are plenty of sites that are dedicated to swinging, and even organized swing and threesome events at If you live in a more populated place, you can probably find some clubs or people who host private parties where you can meet people looking for NSA hookups. I think you will be most successful that way, because I am sure lots of people are also looking for that.
Hmm,a way to help you be successful at finding what you want. That was really imposing a viewpoint and labeling you? Sheesh. A bit defensive, eh?
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