Originally Posted by GalaGirl
I mean, he has a voice of his own here too. Maybe he's not interested in dating you or being your lover. Maybe he's not cool with poly situations. Maybe he's cool with it but you get to know him and find out he plays the accordion on weekends and the constant noise totally turns you off. (I try to joke to keep it light.)
you have to consider the other person involved as well. sure you and your Boyfriend have to agree on boundries and all but this guy may not be into it at all. He might just feel used. Alot of ladies men are really closet romantics looking to be loved. They fall for girls quick and put up walls. He might be into the experiment. You should be completely open with everyone involved and make sure no chest pumping goes on. It is all possible and has been done before.