Originally Posted by snowbunnie
I am not with Ben because he has me thinking that nor is it an abusive relationship.
Oh, I wasn't implying that was the case. Rather that your reason, when asked why you're pursuing someone when there are so many reasons to look elsewhere, seemed to be that it's hard to find people. That comes across as through you're settling... not in the sense that he's below you, but rather that you're signing up for a lot of unnecessary hard work when it would be simpler to look elsewhere.