Thank you both for your replies. I'm at work and on my phone so this won't be too long. I am hopefully starting to see a counselor next week, my wife will be comming to the first session but does not want to see a counselor herself. We are trying to understand to stay together as we still consider ourselves family and partners,just no longer lovers. We know it will be hard and that it may not work but want to try as long as everyone can be happy.
Thank you again