This may not work for you.
for me, "us",
if someone isn't good enough to be able to socialize with our children-they sure as HELL aren't good enough to be in a relationship with either/any of us....
THAT frees up time A LOT.
OF COURSE we aren't having sex in front of the kids-but we do have dates including taking them to the park-where we get to spend time being our REAL selves (mom/dad/uncle) while out with our "prospectives"....
If we can't do things with the kids-we don't include them in our circle...
"Love As Thou Wilt"