Originally Posted by Kemie
Secondary and I get extremely attached and fall in love. Things are lovely for awhile with everyone happy... and then the pain starts. Secondary wants monogamy and can no longer handle the situation. Imminent break up.
How do I stop this pattern?
My BF has had the same pattern of relationships ending because women fall in love and can't stand that he has a wife. I see many people (either posters or partners of posters) right here on these boards struggling with seeing their partner with someone else.
I think it's human nature for most people, when they fall in love, to want exclusivity and to not like the idea of the person they love being intimate with someone else.
Based on what I've seen, the surest solution is to only date men who have their own primary.