Well...I listened to and considered all of your advice. I took this to my partner and we had some long, tearful talks. In the end, we decided that we couldn't work things out in a relationship to the extent that we would both be happy. We broke up on Saturday. I know it was the right thing to do, but I am struggling with how much pain it is causing the both of us. The only thing that consoles me is that I know we are being true to ourselves and that I am not keeping her from being who she is.
Thank you for all of your help.