I recently experienced an extreme downgrade in my relationship with my best friend. We have known each other for about two years now and this summer we decided to begin to explore each others sexuality.
She understood my poly-amorous relationship philosophy and ended up finding another lover about a week after our thing started up. I, on the other hand, had not been successful because I have no idea how to approach people I am interested in.
I guess I have found myself in the poly-closet. My parents and I somehow never managed to manage a consistent emotional relationship.With my friends, it seems like a completely irrelevant topic to bring up. And quite frankly, I feel absolutely ridiculous telling people I just met how I view relationships.
Anyways, things progressed and about a month she tells me that I meet her needs but she is beginning to get jealous at the thought of what if I found another person. She then seemed to want to spend all of her time with me... and consequently all of my time with her. I thought the amount of time we used to spend together was sufficient (probably around 35 hours a week including 15 hours of sleepy cuddles) and was hurt to find she wasn't satiated. I enjoy spending time with her but unfortunately we aren't very productive together. I have tried to share hobbies and studying (we are both students) with her but she'd rather talk out her day and daydream. I enjoy talking about these things with her, it's just I can't help but notice that life and it's opportunities are passing right by me.
A week ago, we tried to talk it out, but now she just plain isn't okay with a poly-amorous relationship. Things were fine for the rest of the night but I haven't talked to her since.
What does reading this make you think? Does anyone have a similar situation to share? This has left me vexed.