Thank you, crisare. Your insight is very much appreciated.
I haven't and won't bad-mouth his wife. I don't know her, and I don't have a problem with her except that he's been unhappy with and bored by her. But that's his thing, and I try to not mirror other people's feelings-- as in, I don't choose to dislike someone just because someone I care about feels that way. Of course if I did dislike her for my own reasons, that would be different.
Don't try to tell me who you are; tell me who you love.
The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change. So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding and love.
-- Jennifer Edwards