Congratulations on learning about yourself and developing a new meaningful relationship!
Out of curiosity, how is your husband reacting to your new girlfriend? Do they know and like each other? Is your husband poly as well? Your girlfriend?
Sounds like this is all pretty new... feel free to post and ask questions as they come up.
PS. I found the length of your post to be about perfect - long enough to touch on several important points but not so long as to get confusing.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero, probably mono male, my live-in husband (together for 21 years, married for 17)
Dude: hetero, probably poly male, my live-in boyfriend (of 2 years; friends for longer) and MrS's best friend (for several years longer than that)
VV and MsJ: bisexual women with male primaries, LDR FWBs (of 19 and 7 years)
My poly blogs on this site:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe