Chris, welcome to the forum. There is a fairly large group of poly folks in New York State, with an apparent concentration around Rochester and Syracuse. That may just be that others haven't come out of the woodwork yet!
Good luck on this new phase of your life - I hope you find what you seek.
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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