Hello, it's very nice to meet you all ^^ I've spent some time reading about the site and the like to see what people post about and how people respond and it's really neat to see such a helpful community. Spending the vast majority of my time online, I can say I don't often see that.
Anyways, so I'm new to polyamory. Like, a week new in fact. Not entirely new to the idea, or the definitions, but new to practicing it. However, I don't really have all that many questions at the moment. Surprising perhaps, but once I explain how I came here you might see why.
For a long time I've had a fairly open view to the way I see life. I've always thought of it as, people should be able to live as they please as long as their is no intentional harm to others. Of course their are logical exclusions to this, but hopefully you get the basic idea. So even if I did not always agree with someone else, they had a right to what makes them happy.
I'm 27 years old, Canadian and recently have come to realize I'm pansexual and most likely polyamorous.
I am currently married and have been for 7 and 1/2 years, and though it's not been a perfect marriage or life, I am deeply in love with my husband. I need him because he is my rock in this world, and I want him for many reasons. Him and I have been through hell in back in our emotional lives and for the most part we are all the other has, as we have no family. And yes this means that he and I were married young, at 19 in fact.
I've known a couple polyamorous people, but until recently never gave it any serious thought for myself. I think it's perhaps the fact a friend of mine recently became actively poly. He's always been in an open relationship with his wife, but just never found someone else before now. And I've been talking to him and asking questions the entire way. Thankfully he's open and easygoing so there's no uncomfortable moments.
Due to this I learned a lot and came to realize that there has been nothing wrong with the odd feelings of attraction I've had towards other people while in relationships. There's nothing wrong with me, developing feelings for other people while I still love my husband with all of my heart. And I have to say, this has lifted a -HUGE- weight from my chest, for I've always felt I have so much love to give^^
It also helped that at the same time I was developing a close friendship with someone, and because of this realization, it has become more then just an awesomely close friendship and deep bond... she is now my wonderful girlfriend!
Since that happened, I have been spending a lot of time reading up on polyamory as the subject really interests me. And so many of the values ring true to my core values for life. It's a wonderful thing to find this comfort in one self.
The reason I joined the site was to talk to people I guess and find out how it is for others, and seek a bit of help, but I'll post about that elsewhere. For now I just wanted to give a hello and introduce myself with a hopefully, not too long post!