Faye, I understand how you feel completely. Rose is going to visit Orchid this weekend and I have gone through the whole gammate of thoughts about being "boring." Rose has been amazing in all of it.
He is with you. He cares for you. He might end up caring for her too, but love is infinite.
When I get fearful (like I am now, before this trip!) I try to be grateful for the things that I are going well. I still feel some fear but maybe not quite as much.
And yeah, I'm in therapy too, for a variety of reasons, but living this lifestyle is some of it.
Me (Lilac) - pan, queer woman, spouse to Programmer
Programmer - Spouse of Lilac, bisexual man
Not currently in relationships with others.