Saw my therapist tonight and talked with her about what happened.
Now just to wait till tomorrow when everyone is home to lay down what changes I'm needing. Basically that things go down to just casual until when/if deeper feelings are there from anyone else and that some days may be hard for me to remember that I'm not needing to allow anything more and on those days I'll probably need to be by myself. Also that I'm going to need to not hear of things that reminds me of what I don't have.
At least that was her advice towards me.
Woodsmith: My husband
SB: guy I've started seeing
KB: SB's wife/slave
NT: KB's boyfriend/owner
SP: NT's girlfriend