I'm so sorry to hear this.
Two years ago, I lost the five people closest to me all at once. (Not "lost" in the sense they died, but in the sense my relationships with them either ended or changed permanently for the worse). They weren't all my romantic loves (one of those people was my brother, with whom I had a severe falling out, unrelated to the other losses), but I understand how unbearable it is to lose so much all at once.
There was nothing I could do except take things one day at a time. Eventually I realized I had emerged from the pain. But it was a long, slow process.
Is your relationship with Woodsmith still strong?
Single, straight, female, solo, non-monogamous.