Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
I firmly believe that trying to put agreements in place which try to limit or somehow control how someone feels in their heart are counter-productive, repressive, and unrealistic.
Yes, definitely. I can't find a positive way of viewing a situation where someone would say, "You can sleep with my spouse but you two can't develop feelings for each other." Seems unrealistic at the very least. Controlling & unhealthy at worst.
On the other hand, people who choose to be monogamous together are choosing to limit and/or control their feelings for other people, aren't they?