Oh Gala, I like that.
I ask for forgiveness. It is something that I feel is important. I ask if they will forgive me for hurting them (after acknowledging the wrong) and what I can do to help rebuild the trust.
Some of this comes from our culture. It is ok to say "sorry" but the other person often replies "Oh, it is ok." Well, it isn't ok to hurt someone, intentional or not. So when I use the word forgiveness it takes out that social response to an apology.
Me (Lilac) - pan, queer woman, spouse to Programmer
Programmer - Spouse of Lilac, bisexual man
Not currently in relationships with others.