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Old 11-09-2012, 01:29 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by nurseypoo1 View Post
...Well...i have to share him...and I'M his WIFE. It took us by complete surprise. She has NEVER been jealous. I wonder if its actual jealousy of me? She says no...but where did that come from? How should i take this and how should we handle it if it arises again?
You might gain some insight from reading some old posts from redpepper's mono partner (MonoVCPHG). I seem to recall that he wrote excellent posts about his feelings about being a mono partner to a poly person. Part of it, I think, had to do with the fact that her husband and other established partners were already part of her life when he became involved with her and part of the "package" that he accepted when he elected to pursue a relationship with her, the dynamic of those relationships was already established and he respected those. The threat seemed to come with the idea of potential "new" partners being added to the mix - who were not part of the original package.

I don't know if your husband's "gf" is mono or poly herself but "new" interests represent change and change can be scary...

JaneQ(Me): poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (25+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (7+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, ex-FWBs to SLeW, friends with MrS
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
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