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Old 11-07-2012, 05:39 PM
ladyslipper ladyslipper is offline
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Default perhaps NOT really about FWB...

This thread is an outgrowth of the thread that I would agree, was wrongly shut down. mmfox wanted to discuss friends with benefit arrangements, seems like a totally appropriate discussion for this forum. So, try again?

I think the issue has to do with attachment, jealousy and boundaries.

In Poly, I would say relationships need to be allowed to develop organically. I really identified with what is written at - a relationship in itself is an entity all it's own, just like an individual.

As well, the old adage, "the best laid plans" comes to mind.

I think where Autumnal Tone got it wrong was in lumping FWB relationships with swinging. To me, swinging can be either with known partners or strangers and FWB would imply a friendship but not a "romantic relationship"...

Here are some previous, relevant threads:
"he wants to be in love"

play vs. partner, boundary equality?

"poly or swinging"

"What are Your Poly Guidelines and Boundaries"

"Double standard"
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."

Last edited by ladyslipper; 11-07-2012 at 11:45 PM. Reason: added another link
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