There is some very good advice in this thread. I am very glad I posted up. To your point Snowmelt, it is all very fresh right now. I do think that I will take a step back for a little bit and really try and figure out how I want to approach this. Its definitely something that I feel strongly that I need to address. At this point its just about finding the right way to go about it so that I address my wifes needs and make some ground on my needs as well.