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Old 11-05-2012, 07:45 PM
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Originally Posted by GalaGirl View Post
I would gently suggest that you could think about reframing that as...

"What kind of partner am I offering to be for this girl when I am an emotional wreck? I need to put my own needs first before I can offer to be a healthy whole person to anybody."
If you still feel that broken over J right now, perhaps your energies are best spent healing self? Don't date.

Or if this is just a first date to help air you out and move away from the previous wacky -- stop putting so much on it. Can't it just be

"I go out on a single date and enjoy it for what it is? A nice time? "
If you mentally load this date up with all the baggage from previous, it points to needing to do more self care first. Try not to project all this anxiety/worry from "the old thing" on to "not even a new thing yet."

YKWIM? Be willing to put YOU first and your healing, health and well being first.


thanks galagirl,

you are right and you always are in my eyes, I will take it slow if she cares she will understand, I need to learn that not everywomen will hurt me, I also need to heal and G is going to try and see J tonight (she doesn't know he is going) I am not sure how it will end, he knows I don't want him to go. :/
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