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Old 11-04-2012, 10:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Vinccenzo View Post
You realize you have feelings for Kim on par with those you have for your wife. You talk about it with Kim, but NOT your wife. You are shutting her out and forming a bubble of free discourse with Kim. You are surprised your wife is feeling more need of reassurance?
I tried to talk to her about those feelings and it didn't go well. I know that this isn't the best situation for me to be in and I don't feel very good about being in this position, but I am. By my own doing. And its time to change that one way or the other. Thus my post asking for advice.


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Originally Posted by Vinccenzo View Post
You say your wife and Kim are also friends. You go to Vegas with Kim. Your wife tries to spend more time with you and you and Kim see it as she ruined something for you two. Did you inform your wife of your plans for that day or is this another thing you did not share with her and can now conveniently hold against your wife for unwittingly ruining?
She knew all of my plans for the week. I didn't hide any of that from her. It would take another book of a post to explain our trips to Vegas but generally when we go up for car shows I only see my wife for a few hours over the course of a 4 day weekend because she gambles and I don't. I hang out with my car and truck club friends who are in town for the show. That is our norm for the last decade, so what happened this week was a surprise to me. And will be part of the conversation for sure.

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It might be a good idea to step back and count the blessings shared with your wife in the last 10 years and recognize that if she were not who she is - you wouldn't probably wouldn't even know Kim to have these feelings for in the first place. Your marriage to your wife is the vehicle by which you were able to express yourself sexually with this woman. Maybe go thank your wife and give her a kiss.
Your right, if it weren't for her I wouldn't have ever been able to meet kim and have what I have. I thank her all the time for what she does and allows me to do. But that doesn't change how I feel about Kim or the dilemma that I am in.
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