Blunt isn't always a bad thing.
Your note about the swinging is dead on. It definitely happened to me.
And for the record, I don't think that the grass is greener on the other side. I feel like for me the grass would be greener with the fence knocked down.
Believe me, we have had some very deep and very open conversations. In our previous conversation about poly we talked about specific feelings she had and I tried very hard to put her mind at rest on that front. Of course that was just the first conversation and maybe she has thought more about it since then. Maybe its time to have another of the deep talks about it and see where things go.
Thanks for the replies. This is very helpful. I have been lurking on this site from time to time for while. Glad I joined and posted my question. Has me searching away and reading some very good information.