Hello and Welcome to the Forums!
Thanks for sharing something about yourself - sounds like you are in the midst of lots of life-changes (transitioning, dating-after-divorce, expanding your horizons, etc.)
How did you come to learn about polyamory? Do you have much poly experience? Do you ID as polyamorous as an "identity" or one of a variety of "lovestyle" options? What would your "ideal" poly relationship look like? (There are as many ways of "doing" poly as there are people doing it.) What does poly mean to you?
(You don't have to answer these questions! These are common questions/discussions that we seem to have on this forum, so I thought that I'd get you started.)
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (5+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic girlfriend and BFF
Lotus: "it's complicated"
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe