Originally Posted by crisare
Wow this resonated with me.
I used to be a "people pleaser" and wanted to be able to connect in some way with everyone. Perhaps not to the depth that you describe redpepper being, but close. I always felt I had to like and be liked by everyone or I was failing.
I used to feel this too..it used to bother me when I perceived someone didn't like me...now I realize that is an unrealistic expectation and accept that fact...but that doesn't mean I can't find something to appreciate about everyone whether I express it or not. I do it in secret and I feel good about it internally.