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Old 10-29-2012, 03:41 AM
SearchingforMyself SearchingforMyself is offline
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Question Is it ok to be ok about a break-up?

On a prior thread I asked about the possibility of rebuilding trust - my then live-in partner E actually did post on this forum, but IMHO his post was a load of bull claiming that he didn't understand how to "be" poly. His behavior hasn't changed - he has not sought the help he claimed he was looking for and in fact his default setting now seems to be lying to me. He has lied about knocking a frame off the wall and damaging the baseboard, even about asking for a nite off from work! Our relationship is over. He still lives in my home for the moment as he has nowhere else to go and no money saved, but I have given him a deadline of 12/31 to find another place and he sleeps on the couch.

I just don't feel bad or upset about this relationship ending. My lover and metamour had even laid in supplies of Kleenex and my favorite ice cream for the moment that the yucky sadness set in, but that moment just hasn't happened. I guess maybe in part because of his attitude?

If anything, I feel bad that I don't feel bad. Has anyone else had this happen?
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