Originally Posted by Helo
Because you're monogamous and you're unable to separate yourself from the "Why am I not enough?" question.
Hi. Sorry to jump in on this thread, but I am going through the same thing with my wife. She wants to open our marriage, and I am really struggling with the idea. What Helo said really struck a chord within me. I have basically been beating myself up with this very question. Am I not good enough sexually? Is she bored with me but doesn't want to hurt our children by leaving? Are my idiosyncrasies too much? What did I do? Or conversely, what didn't I do?
So I am very interested in what you're getting at here. How does one get over this feeling that "I am just not good enough?"