Sounds like things are still basically at the same place:
- You want/need more time/connection.
- He's not giving you what you want/need.
But emotionally you have moved on to a place of acceptance of this mismatch and know it is functionally over.
I wanted to give you a *hug* because you sound sad.
Breaking up sucks. But I'm glad you are trying to move yourself to a healthier space long term even if you have to endure some short term suckage to get there.
Hang in there!