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Old 12-17-2009, 07:54 PM
Xaillipho Xaillipho is offline
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Default Extremely new, and looking for advice and support.

I just found this forum, and think it's a wonderful resource, and thank everyone that's contributed to creating it. I' new to this, that's its a blessing that such a resource is here for us newbies, so that we don't feel we are struggling alone to try to figure everything out.

From reading, and learning some of the terminology, my wife is interested in starting a V. I happen to be bisexual, and my wife has known since we first started dating, we have always been very open with each other. Recently we were driving, and she said she would be ok with a V relationship, with me as the hinge, in essence, that she loves me so deeply, she wants me to be able to fully who I am.

I love my wife with all my heart, I always have and always will. She is the mother of my child, and my best friend. Yet I have noticed as well that though I will always love her, she can't fully fill all of my needs, and I wonder if this could potentially be an answer to that.

Yet, at the same time, I don't want to potentially hurt anyone. I can imagine how hard these kind of relationships are to maintain properly. I feel like...I'd be being selfish, that'd it'd be all for me. I want my wife to be able to be fully happy in whatever kind of relationship we end up in. I'd be more then pleased to find a man I and my wife could truly love, who was bi, and instead of me feeling selfish by profiting from the polyamorous relationship, having a equal triad.

I'm just very new to all of this, and I really could use any advice anyone is willing to give. I thank you again for the wonderful posts you have, that have been so helpful. Thank you as well to all that respond and help me with this very confusing and new experience.
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