Originally Posted by GalaGirl
Not ok with WHAT?
Are you angry? Fearful? Worrried? About what? When?
Could you name/articulate it?
She isn't looking to have a long term 3rd partner, but to have someone else on the side for a certain period of time. Problem is, this is the 2nd time she has gravitated towards someone where I have a weird competitive thing with, that I knew before her, that I have worked for in the past, etc. Some guys I feel ok with, some I don't. We have talked about boundaries and "rules". But if she is really in to someone that cares about her and treats her well, and I say no, she may sneak around behind my back(which she has done, regretfully). So I feel forced to deal with it and "find the strength" in order for her not to feel compelled to lie. Make sense?