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Old 10-23-2012, 05:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Mya View Post
They both use the words primary and secondary, even though in the first case it's obvious that the primary's needs and wants come first and in the second case it just reflects who shares day-to-day stuff with who. Isn't it confusing? That is precisely why I won't use those terms at all, because I would never know which interpretation people would make and to me those two attitudes are worlds apart. There's no judgement here, I'm just pointing out that for example persephone and CielDuMatin seem to have quite different definitions for primary.
I totally agree, which is why I never consider using those terms without some sort of explanation (as I did here). I would much rather have different words to distinguish between them - I got my definitions from a Franklin Veaux piece on the subject, by the way - http://www.xeromag.com/fvsecondary.html
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